The question on your mind is probably, "Well, why don't Thai girls date Thai guys? But there are also tens of thousands of Thai girls who are looking to meet a guy they can fall in love with." There's a couple really honest answers here, but it has a lot to do with most Thai men being lazy, habitual liars, insecure in themselves, they'll use physical and/or mental abuse to control their girlfriends, and the vast majority of them will have a second girlfriend on the side, or what they call a Mia Noi (minor wife). And yes, part of that is because a future with you can offer them opportunities they could only ever dream of in Thailand, but you knew that before you even came here, right?
You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player.I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation” – when we are drawn to people who embody the worst emotional characteristics of our parents.Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.You see a picture, you read a profile, and you start to get excited. Suddenly, you’re flirting like crazy, eagerly anticipating his every response. You know that dates are rarely as promising as the buildup. By the second week, the cute guy had already written to her. ) Soon, they were bantering back and forth multiple times a day, and he started to plot their first date. When the cute guy Googled Sandy’s hometown, he was surprised to learn that she lived 3 hours away.There’s wit, there’s sexual innuendo, there’s instant talk about making plans. But, sure enough, when he shows up, he’s as cute as his picture. You play mini-golf and grab two rounds of drinks at a nearby bar, after which you go back to your place and make out on the couch for an hour. He knew he didn’t want to get into a long-distance relationship, and so, instead of trekking to go on a first date, he emailed Sandy to apologize and wish her well in her search for love. Even though she’d only exchanged a few emails, she’d gotten excited about this cute, successful, articulate, enthusiastic man. She started to dream about this man saving her from a life of loneliness. They really didn’t have any relationship whatsoever.